There can be a dark side to TRIADs.
Those in an unhappy marriage may use a TRIAD as a form of escape by
finding, with two other persons outside their marriage, the emotional
support they desire and thereby neglect the focus and concern they
should be putting into their marriage.
Two sociopaths can, conceivably, consciously (but without conscience
because they have none) use a TRIAD to con another individual. I
explain extensively about sociopaths in a box at the end of this
chapter. Avoid sociopaths like the plague, which they are.
A TRIAD network can be the foundation of a terrorist network. I won't
go into the details about this. I have never favored 'How-To' books on
socially disruptive functions, such as making bombs, etc. However, the
reason TRIADs could be misused in this way is that they are naturally
divided into self-contained cells.
Communist cells, and those of other revolutionary networks, worked in
this way because the capturing or infiltration of a single cell did not
betray the whole network. It was possible to isolate the cell that had
been penetrated and to work around it. The techniques for doing that
are what I will not go into.
A TRIAD could be a Ménage à trois; that is a French term and, if you are
really interested, I will leave it for you to look it up. In our
society we already have marriages between homosexuals and marriages
between lesbians.
Polygamy is not unknown and there is nothing to prevent a TRIAD from
being a polygamous marriage or, for that matter, on the other side,
polyandrous or even new (certainly not better) combinations given the
legalization of homosexual and lesbian marriages.
Those who do not feel there is any reason for moral condemnation of
homosexual and lesbian marriages would likewise have no reason for
condemning these other variations that I have no inclination to detail,
and which are so new to our society that so far as I know they have no
specific nomenclatures but fall under the rubric 'polyamorous'. Things
go even further afield into what is called zoophilia. But I am not
going to go there to even think about it. At the time of this writing
the APA (American Psychological Association) is taking the position that
pedophilia is not a pathological condition, a route followed decades
ago regarding homosexuality.
I certainly do not advocate any of these things, but I do not want you
to think that I am so naive as to be unaware of such possibilities. It
should be obvious, however, to any reader of this book that the
inclination and intent of the author is that the TRIAD technique be used
for what he considers to be high moral purposes.
Analysis of the following story is to be found at the end of the next
chapter. For those who think that my titling of the following is too
moralistic let me assure you that I am quite aware of the importance of
labeling. Some will say that such a child is not a person/a living
soul. My wife and I are of such ancient generation that when she was
born she was not legally a person either, so we are not buying that.
Evil Leads To Evil
Partner To Murder
by Anonymous -
A true story
TRIAD Level Rating 0.0
Jake (A) has been having a secret relationship with his much younger
first cousin, Sophia (B), for almost 8 years. Sophia's best friend,
Isabel (C), has been privy to their relationship since the beginning and
has fully accepted their circumstances because she has seen that,
although Sophia and Jake try their best to not commit incest, they
really love each other and cannot stay away from one another. However,
Isabel's understanding nature ceases to exist when a drastic event
occurred in the first cousins' clandestine relationship.
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A-B "You know how much I really love you and, for all these years, there's been no one else but you."
B-A "I know Jake, and you know I really love you too. Since I was 12, it's always been you and no one else."
A-B "We can do everything we want. Everything you want. I won't
ever let you go. But this we just can't have. You know we can't have
this. It's totally wrong."
B-A/C "I know", Sophia reluctantly answers.
C-(A/B) "So what do you suggest you do? Abort the baby?! Come
on Jake, that's not the best solution! You can just have him; a baby is
a baby."
B-C "Is that what you think we should do?! Keep the baby? Do you
know how crazy that is? No one will ever accept him. And what if he
will be deformed when he comes out, or with diseases and sicknesses that
our bloods bring?" Sophia cries softly. She does not know what to do.
But for the past 8 years, throughout her adolescence and teenage years,
Jake has been her entire world and she has done and listened to
everything Jake has told her.
A-B "Babe, I love you so much. But you have to listen to me. We just can't have this baby. You know we can't have him."
B-A "You're right. We can't have the baby. There's no way we could keep him."
C-(A.B) "Guys, don't do this!"
B-A "How do I get rid of it?"
A-B "Don't worry, I know some people. We'll take care of it tomorrow."
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An Aside About Sociopaths
Almost everyone knows several sociopaths in this day and age. The
problem is that most people can't recognize a sociopath and don't know
the sociopaths are sociopaths. The sociopaths know.
Sociopaths are often very charming. They understand how other people
think and what they need to do to manipulate. Normal people don't have a
clue as to how sociopaths think.
Sociopaths can become exceptionally adept at dissimulating conformance
and become political or military leaders, or rise high in the corporate
world or in the world of business. For these sociopaths, all normal
people are prey and, while they understand exactly what normal people
expect of them, they perform only to obtain their own personal goals.
This adaptation and coloration of behavior by sociopaths will often be
very thorough. They are very wary of ever being caught off-guard but
that is the way that we sometimes manage to identify them, if we do,
because it is their nature to lie. In their disguise they do their
utmost to appear as upstanding citizens in the community, productive
workers in the corporation, dedicated soldiers in the service, devout
members of their church, active promoters in their social organizations.
Whatever chameleon presence is necessary to hide their true nature.
One may well ask then, "what harm is there in this, if they appear and
perform so perfectly?" The answer is that when you most need them, they
are perfectly capable of turning on you and pushing you into the well.
Those so betrayed are often, themselves, very traumatized.
The sociopaths are not a new phenomena of human nature; they have always
been with us. In the Bible, Jesus often speaks of them as, "Oh ye
hypocrites."
Normal minds can, in no way, understand the sociopathic mind and there
appears no way to change it, although it can be controlled. Sociopaths
often form hierarchies where they do very well at controlling other
sociopaths. They easily identify each other and understand the mutual
rules.
Normal minds have difficulty in identifying sociopaths and often find
them completely unpredictable, which they are. A normal person seeing a
child sitting unattended beside a deep well would be concerned about
its safety and would exert effort to rescue the child if it were about
to topple in. The sociopath could as easily push the child in if they
were sure they were unobserved. But, then again, they might not. They
are unpredictable. Their having no conscience, we don't know what they
would do.
It is not a matter of free will. Both sociopaths and normal people have
free will. Indeed, normal people couldn't bring themselves to push the
child in because of their conscience. We can therefore reasonably ask,
"Who has the greater free will, sociopaths or normal people?"
Sociopaths may be of high intellect or low intellect. They may be of
high adaptability or low adaptability. Low intellect in itself has
nothing to do with sociopathy. Many individuals of very low intellect,
whom we might class as being mentally retarded, can be very loving in
nature and have strong feelings of guilt if they do not follow 'the
rules'.
Very often sociopathic personalities have a low level of adaptation.
This seems to be the distinguishing feature of autism. If these
individuals can be controlled they are usually only a threat to
themselves. It is the highly intellectual and highly adaptive sociopaths
that are the great threat to society.
I am making considerable effort to describe a sociopath because, if you
are a normal person, you definitely do not want to be in a TRIAD with
one. Unfortunately I cannot tell you how to easily identify an
intellectual, adaptive sociopath. There are books on the subject and I
will recommend the book, "The Sociopath Next Door - The Ruthless vs. The
Rest of Us", by Martha Stout, Ph.D.
I know of no cure for the sociopathic soul. All that I can say is:
Avoid them. Trying to change their outlook is like trying to make a
color blind person to see color by showing them more and more of the
color which they can't see. It isn't a matter of will or reason, but
simply a deficiency that you can't cure.
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