Chapter Ten - Ending A TRIAD


Chapter Ten -
Ending A TRIAD

TRIADs end and are terminated for many reasons. Most just fade away. TRIADs associated with a conference or meeting may just last a few hours or days until the natural end.
Longer TRIADs may last until the end of a school year or graduation, ones in the military until a member is rotated out or assigned to a different unit.
TRIADs, no matter how formed, may continue of course if that is their members' wish. All of this is of no great matter for lower level TRIADs.
Higher level TRIADs are a different matter. They require a large investment of social, emotional and spiritual effort. They are a rarity in one's life and are difficult to find and nurture. They should be properly treasured, almost as much as marriage.
Today many (in fact most) marriages end in failure or are actually failed marriages even though they may still have a legal standing or a social appearance. In the next section, we shall deal more with subject of marriage and how TRIADs may assist them but, for the moment, we are simply drawing a parallel regarding the ending of TRIADs.
Many/most marriages and TRIADs will fail simply through neglect. Since there is no legal or social approbation in the failure of a TRIAD it is particularly easy to simply let it fade away through neglect.
TRIADs have a different facet than marriages because they are composed of three people. Two may wish to continue while one is not holding up their part. There can be many reasons for this, such as life changes in the third member's life or that the member simply relocates to an impractical distance.
Merging a new person into a previously existing TRIAD may be an art in itself. The remaining members of a mature TRIAD may be able to jointly find someone to replace the departing individual and to assist the departing individual in finding/forming a new TRIAD.
Those factors which cause the alienation of a TRIAD member, or become reason for the other two members to seek a new third member, will be examined in connection with various other facets in the next section.
Hopefully, TRIADs will always dissolve amicably but when they are of the deep emotional higher level type there is always the possibility of trauma. We know this is often true of marriages and it may be true of a TRIAD. While it may be the specific purpose of some TRIADs to ameliorate such situations, life is full of challenges.
TRIADs should be initiated intentionally and consciously, and its members may consciously decide to end it or they may also individually, or collectively through consensus, just let it fade away.
Much of what might be mentioned here will actually be covered more thoroughly under TRIAD maintenance rather than dissolution. Since this book does have particular orientation in regards to TRIADs for prepping for disaster I will say a few words in regards to that category.
It would be marvelous if prepper TRIADs could achieve the unity and level of higher level TRIADs but most often, in practicality, there are so few preppers in society and they are so isolated, both socially and geographically, that it will be fortunate and very useful to be able to form TRIADs at any level.
Consequently, prepper TRIADs may often not have a high coherence. This is accentuated by the fact that there are so many different reasons for prepping and so many different perceptions as to the way to go about it.
Additionally, it is very unfortunate but true that many of those in the prepper 'community' strongly subscribe to isolating philosophies. Much of what they see as solutions are actually the root causes of the problems, both for preppers and the current society as a whole. These are problems that TRIADs need to help them work through.
In this book, I do not directly address those philosophical concepts but anyone wishing to understand my views on them will find them thoroughly explained in my book Society AFTER Doomsday.

All Is Well That Ends Well
by Treasia Stepp
TRIAD Level Rating 8.9
Teresa (A), Bobbi Jo (B) and Heather (C) formed a TRIAD as close friends while in college. After graduation Teresa moved a considerable distance away to successfully start on her career. Bobbi Jo (B) ended up moving to the same city as Teresa (A) and only a few blocks away. Teresa and Bobbi Jo meet on a regular basis at the local book store coffee shop. Heather moved much further away in another direction. For a long time all three reconnected once a week for a three-way conference call that kept their TRIAD going. However, in the last several weeks Heather has not been able to join in the three-way calls. Neither Teresa nor Bobbi Jo know why this has happened and are becoming concerned about it. They feel they have all drifted apart.

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C-(A.B) "Hey ladies, I finally made it this time around. I am so sorry for being so busy as of late," Heather said somewhat woefully to her two friends. C-B "Will you forgive me for this Bobbi Jo?" Heather asked.
B-(C/A) "Why just ask me this question? You should be asking Teresa as well," stated Bobbi Jo somewhat firmly. "Remember, this friendship came about because of her," she added.
A-(B/C) "Bobbi Jo, I can speak for myself," said Teresa, her voice growing somewhat louder the longer she spoke.
A-C "Just what has been going on?" she asked Heather.
C-A "Life, that's what," said Heather, almost belligerently.
A-C "Everyone has a life here, Heather, not just you!" Teresa declared. "You're not the only one who's busy, you know."
B-(A/C) "Ladies, ladies, let's get control of ourselves," said Bobbi Jo. She saw this call getting out of hand.
C-(A.B) "Ok, to be completely honest with the both of you I have just become too busy to take part in the weekly calls. I hate to say this but my life has become hectic, what with the kids needing to be taken places, ball games, PTA meetings and so on. I just simply do not have the time that I once did," explained Heather, much calmer now that she had this off her chest.
A-(B.C) "Ok. Truth be told, I have become so busy with my career that I don't have the time for these calls as much anymore either," said Teresa. "I didn't want to be the one to bring it up but, as Heather said, life's just become different for all of us."
B-(A.C) "Thank goodness someone besides me decided to get this out in the open. It's been weighing on my mind heavily as well," added Bobbi Jo, fiddling with the phone cord.
C-(A.B) "How about that, instead of weekly, we make these calls about every 6 months. I still love you guys and always will but we just don't have as much in common as we once did, nor do we honestly have the time," replied Heather.
A-(B.C) "I will miss you both but I think this is best as well," Teresa admitted to the other two friends. "We have all changed and have our own lives to take care of now. Naturally I will miss both of you and wish you both only the best in life, and I hope that we never completely lose contact with each other."

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