1. It is nothing new.
People may have done it coincidently in the past, but for a TRIAD to
truly function people need to be aware of what they are doing.
2. People do it all the time.
Not really, and someone who says this doesn't understand at all the
nature of a TRIAD. A TRIAD is not just three people getting together to
chat or to try to solve a problem. A TRIAD consists of 'three people who
agree to accept cross monitoring of their own attitudes' AND 'to
provide such cross monitoring of the other pair'.
3. Other traditional ways, such as going to one's pastor for counseling, are better.
Yes, there many are different social structures possible. This book
certainly doesn't suggest replacing traditional marriage between two
people and sometimes committees or buddy systems better fit a situation;
this is discussed in depth in Chapter Eleven on the alternatives to
TRIADs. But there are many instances in our daily lives where a TRIAD
would have distinct advantage and provide us definite benefits.
4. 1. TRIADs are limited because they have only three people. The
more people you have, the more talent, skills, resources and different
insights you will have.
That is true. But to say that TRIADs are limited for this reason would
be the same argument as saying marriage is limited because it involves
only two people. The advantage of a TRIAD is that it permits, with
agreement and commitment, close interpersonal analysis and opportunity
for personal growth.
5. But still, it doesn't need to be limited to just three people.
Yes, it does because adding even a fourth person creates conflicting
lines of critique. This conflict increases exponentially with each
person added.
6. Diversity of opinion with more people is good and TRIADs limit that.
No, in this case, the greater diversity is bad. The increase in number,
while possibly increasing diversity, defeats the purpose and ability for
cross monitoring. There then just become innumerable paths for
discussion, but no direct path for change. Unfortunately, people have a
tendency to 'play games' that then prevent real introspection and
change.
7. Greater networking provides access to much greater resources.
The TRIAD system, properly understood, provides for extensive
networking. Every individual node can belong to numerous other TRIADs,
and each individual node brings to each of its own TRIADs what it gains
from its other TRIADs. In addition the total TRIAD network, while it
may be indescribable, brings to the overall society the contribution of
each individual. Just as in a free market economic system, while we
cannot begin to describe the interlinks, we know that they are there.
8. TRIADs are too complicated to understand.
Not at all. While one may not understand all the principles underlying
them, they can certainly understand how to use them. You may not
understand how electricity works but you do know how to plug in and
throw the switch. A child can do it. And an adult can use electricity
with more maturity.
9. TRIADs can be dangerous.
Anything can be misused. The book does address the dark side of TRIADs
where they are misused but, even there, those are usually not truly
TRIADs because they don't follow the ten TRIADic Rules. As was true
with the preceding point, electricity can provide great benefit but, of
course, it can also be misused.
10. The procedures for using TRIADs need to be better understood.
This is certainly true. We are presently at the Wright Brothers stage
of development in this airplane and hopefully some day there will be
jets. However, every journey must begin with a single step and, while
humanity has made great strides in the physical sciences, so far we are
pretty much still sitting on our duffs as far as social development is
concerned. You have the opportunity to help us all get moving.
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